Letting go

From what i've been through thus far in my life, i'm entirely aware that i don't know everything. 

I've been reading the book 7 Habits of Highly Effective People and there's a part in it that says:

"How different our lives are when we really know what is deeply important to us, and, keeping that picture in mind, we manage ourselves each day to be and to do what really matters most. If the ladder is not leaning against the right wall, every step we take just gets us to the wrong place faster. We may be very busy, we may be very efficient, but we will be truly effective only when we begin with the end in mind."

What i've been thinking about recently is what i can do to get to where i want to be, and even more importantly - who i want to be. And how becoming who i want to be will get me to where i want to be...! Does that make sense? And this is what i've come up with!

• How much easier it has been for me to let things go when i do all things with a kind heart. And to develop that takes time, patience and most importantly an entire change of habit and outlook.  But! how worth it it is to go through the day not being angry, critical or judgmental of others. And how much easier life is when you brush off when people do that to you. No one is perfect, and the only person we're hurting when we hold things against others is ourselves.

• And with that i've learned that its so important to judge not. I've realized how similar everyone
  
  is and that we're all just doing different things to find our own way of happiness. And that we all are doing things to try and end whatever suffering we may be going through (or have overcome), however that may be. We're here to genuinely help another, not hurt. To lift and not push down. And to be the people who others can come to. 

I think moving on is just something you feel inside. Like one day you wake up and think "it's all okay now." just like that. And you don't wish or regret or feel angry. But i also think until you get to that day, you need to work towards it by finding your individual worth, progressing and doing things you've always wanted to for you and no one else. Staying busy and trying to be positive, even if you don't feel it. 

After hell

I want to be more kind
and honest.

I want to be genuine
and hardworking.

I want people to know i don't judge them when they talk to me,


And that i truly care about what they say.

I want to spread laughter
and ease
everywhere i go.


But I've learned that life will break you down, and push you to your core. To points where it feels like your entire being will give up. And that these moments may seem to stunt our personal growth.  It's easy to stay positive when everything is going right in your life but it's in the hard times when positive attributes are developed.

It can be the most difficult thing to
      stay positive and strive to give your best effort
      However is it in that that you will overcome your immediate problems. And be stronger to endure whatever happens in the future.

"Yesterday is not ours to recover but tomorrow is ours to win or lose."

Learn from the past to be a bit better.
And make wiser choices than the past ones that have failed you.

Have more patience and more long suffering. And look for the good in everyone instead of focusing on the bad as most do.
Especially in yourself.

I used to be wise

Now i think i'm wiser.

I'm learning what strength is. 

I thought i knew what it was before. I didn't know as much before as i thought i did.

i'm learning that

strength is found in kindness. 

    Where it is easier to lose patience, and be so very frustrated and angry with others - its found in       putting their feelings before your own.

Strength is found in not giving up. 

    No matter how difficult it may be to stop. Or how much you're being tried or tested or taken to weak points, it's pushing forward.

It comes from putting others before yourself. 

    Seeing what they want, what would make them consistently happy. Smile, laugh, feel comfortable and confident and helping them gain and progress towards that. Even if it means putting your desires aside.

It's genuine and sincere

Strength is never moving on, but learning to learn from mistakes and finding the will to forgive.